Giver's Dilemma...

There are two kinds of people whom we come across...Givers and Takers....

As the name suggests, one of them incessantly offers to the needy (emotional, materialistic support etc) while the other naturally seeks from those who are willing to give.

A dilemma surfaces if the giver is told that he or she has a tendency to provide at every given opportunity and they need to consciously step back if they want to safeguard their well being. They say that the giver is at a risk of being robbed of his/her emotional well being and would easily succumb to emotional exhaustion.

I witnessed a similar dilemma in a giver, few days back. The giver was told by a worldly wise soul that the only way to protect the heart & mind from exhaustion is to take a conscious step back. The soul also warned that the failure to retract will only make the giver suffer more with each passing day.

While the giver may have understood the context, it becomes very difficult for him/her to actually follow the advice. Where to draw the line? With whom to draw the line? How to say no?

These are a few questions which haunt the giver and pulls him/her back from even making an attempt to actually retrace from the giving mode. Well I would only say that, the giver should close his/her eyes, think about the person they are contemplating to help next (consciously or unconsciously) and assess - would the other person go a similar extra mile for them if the tables are turned. If it's a "Yes" that pops in your mind, go ahead and give as if there is no tomorrow but if it's a "No" then the giver needs to step back and keep his/ her thoughts in check.

Untill  a well thought out decision is made, go slow on the giving spree....learn to say No and nurture a bit of taker as well within.

But in all of this...the point is...do not overdo whatever it is you decide (give or take) and the rest would unfold eventually...

A Bow Of Gratitude...

I took up writing to give words to the crazy thoughts that keep trailblazing my mind now and then. It started with few pages in a notebook during college days and then I went into a sudden hibernation for years.

Writing returned to me in 2010 in its electronic version and since then it's been a love story that's still being told. I wish I could write more often ... but then I'm happy with what I manage to pen down.

As always, few crazy thoughts popped up and I had this urge to write something. The moment I logged into my account, my eyes popped.

My blog view had suddenly crossed 5000 views. While I would have eventually reached there in a few days but wasn't anticipating it today. Someone, somewhere added 154 views in a single day. This had happened few weeks back as well.

I don't know who all across the globe end up reading my rantings. Some of my best buds do share their feedback now and then and it lights me up. While 5000 views may not be a milestone for bloggers at heart but to me it means a lot.

To all those out there, across the globe...some known faces and several unknown....I bow my head with heartfelt gratitude...for taking out time and browsing through my thoughts. I don't know whether you relate to these or not; I don't know whether these mean something to you all or not; I don't know whether you all cringe everytime I post something.

But thank you once again... for all the views...Speak to me, in return, with your thoughts as well and help me improvise my words....

With another bow of gratitude...I sign out....Happy Reading....