Trinkets of Rumination

Sunday, October 16, 2016

Who Am I...

Well what would life be, if not unpredictable? Sweet this moment and sour the very next. It keeps us on our toes and laughs back at us when we try and plan how our coming days would be.

(Fingers crossed) I am currently in a phase where life has been kind to me after a phase of toil and madness. And so, I was looking forward to the weekend gone by, to share my happiness with my dear ones. It indeed was a lovely evening with partners in crime. Reminisced about college days, picked places for a well deserved and pending vacation, talked about cars, some friendly banter, pulsating music and much more. I couldn't have asked for more.

But before the evening came to an end, something changed. A partner's acquaintance gate crashed my evening. Being an extremely private person, who is also very picky about her dear ones and spends time with only those who matter, it somehow didn't go down well with me.

The gatecrasher not just tugged at my partners' attention, IT (want to keep it gender neutral) meddled with how I had wanted my evening to conclude. I did not like it...not a single bit. From then on I had to use every ounce of endurance I had and eventually, the evening ended abruptly.

My dismay slowly turned to the partner who had allowed IT to gatecrash. I wanted to talk about it but don't know when will I get the chance.

I wonder, what would it take for people to give time and attention to folks who matter and sift away the riff raff. In today's times, do we really do right by the ones who matter to us? Then suddenly a question pops up - am I even the one who matters?

May be..... or may be not....That's a tough one to tell right now.

I don't know about any of you right now but here's what I believe in.

"If you my friend, matter to me then you will get all of my undivided attention...all the time. And if I matter to you, then you better give me the time and attention that I deserve. There is no room for gatecrashers".

Wednesday, August 17, 2016

I Will Always Show Up For You...

I am a big fan of the Madam Secretary tele-series and before you read further, I have to clarify that this post is not a series review - by no means.

It's been a while that I have been following this one up and it's all about the lives of Elizabeth McCord (Secretary of the State) and her husband Henry McCord (Professor and a retired, decorated officer). It's about how they juggle their personal & professional lives, given all the chaos that surrounds them, day in and day out.

They are an epitome of what we describe as the true power couple. These two give us serious relationship goals and every episode gets better than the previous one and the one thing I definitely look forward too is - which is the next goal they're going to throw our way...

Every time when the going gets tough, they teach us to stick by together, no matter how messy the world around gets. A few minutes back, while I was watching the latest episode, they doled out another relationship goal and it struck an instant chord with me.

Under certain dire circumstances, Henry assures Beth - "I will always show up for you."

I feel that these words are so powerful that if said with the true conviction and sincerity of the heart, they are capable of lifting any relationship to an unimaginable level of trust and love. This belief could become the medicine for a lot that ails any relationship in modern times.

As the sands of time seep away the suppleness of any relationship, it is the beliefs like these that ensure that the ship sails smoothly and no storm drowns it. In these times of thinning patience, unwillingness to adjust and willingness to give up just when the going gets tough, this is the belief that makes us stronger and acts as the potent rays shining from the lighthouse - guiding us to our true destination... being together...being there for each other...

So here's my resolve for the ones I love and care about -

"I Will Always Show Up For You"

A Happy First...

Time sure knows how to fly. It feels as if I had just closed my eyes for a second and when I opened them, a whole year had passed. When I look back, our run-in doesn't cease to amaze me. One moment, I didn't know that Shera existed and then in the very next, fate plays up. And voila....

Well its just been about 365 days but seems like several seasons filled up this time. Just like the lyrics go - "We had joy, we had fun, we had seasons in the sun."

We had the best of the days, the craziest of conversations, found our partners in crime and that is not all. We also fought. The cold and silent pauses were innumerable and we even grounded ourselves with no connect - absconded is the word.

Our worlds brought us together and took us apart too. If we took ten steps forward then we ended up taking five steps back too. But as they say, everyone you meet...comes with a time stamp - few days, few weeks or months or even years.

I don't know what our time stamp is...and right now it doesn't matter...

For all we shared... for all we lost....

For all we learned... and all that we forgot....

There is so much more to share...so much more to cherish...

So much to explore....that this lifetime is not going to limit (us)...

Let me stop my babble here and come straight to the point.

A very happy first to you Shera. Am sure your bag was a mixed one too coz mine definitely was. Looking forward to much more madness, many more crimes with the partners and endless crests and troughs to sail through together.

Stay happy...stay blessed...

Cheers!!

Friday, July 15, 2016

Jag Ghumiya...

The title of the post may make you think that this is probably a review for the movie "Sultan". Well let me tell you that what you are going to read here is no where near a review. I'm penning what I took back from the movie with regards to men & women of strength, among other things.

By strength, I mean the strength of character and will. The movie gave a glimpse of what happens when two strong willed people fall in love. It's fireworks all the way...

It is not easy for them to be together all the time coz the strength of their will, will also come to loggerheads - many times. Tempers will flare, debates will arise and the sailing may not be as smooth as they might have dreamed of. But at the end of the day, it is this very strength that makes them choose each other - day in day out, every moment, every season.

They also know that the day they stop choosing each other, would be the day they get over so they will never stop trying....they will never stop choosing each other, no matter what happens.

For me, one of the songs from the movie very beautifully describes the thought that I have just written in the lines gone by. The female version of this song currently plays on loop on my pod. There is something about this song that tugs at my heart and urges me to listen to it again and again.

Well here's the video for your ready reckoning -

Even after uploading the video, I feel like sharing few of the lines from the song -

"ओ.. ना वो अखियाँ रूहानी कहीं
ना वो चेहरा नूरानी कहीं
कहीं दिल वाली बातें भी ना
ना वो सजरी जवानी कहीं

जग घूमेया थारे जैसा ना कोई
जग घूमेया थारे जैसा ना कोई"

My favorite lines from the song? Can't be no other but this one -

"वो ही करना है जो है कहना

जग घूमेया थारे जैसा ना कोई
जग घूमेया थारे जैसा ना कोई"

All Grown Up...

For us, you just arrived yesterday as the cutest bundle of joy that we could ever come across. None of us realized that so many days, weeks and months have actually passed since you came into our lives.

We didn't realize when the tiny ten fingers and toes became inquisitive enough to start frolicking around the house & open spaces. We were amazed at how the tiny gurgles gave way to one words and then smart one liners.

You are growing up my darling and at a pace much faster than we thought you would. Your father always said - "don't grow so fast my tiny one... I want each moment with you to last an eternity". But we both know, the story of our lives are so different than we want them to be.

You recently reached one of the biggest milestones for your age. "The Play School".

It's hard for us to see you teary eyed each day when you prep up for your day. Though you love each moment you spend with kids your age and it makes us even more proud that you are one of the best & brightest that they have in their batch.

My darling doll!! I can't make it any easier for you to embrace this big change in your life. Every time you say - "Mama chor ke chali gayi", one of us feels like enveloping you in warm. fuzzy bear hug and assure you that she is right here, waiting for you to come out of the playschool.

It is as difficult for her as it is for you. And so my dear, this is what I want to whisper in your ears -

"Don't cry coz your world has changed. Don't cry coz your mommy is not around. We are all watching over you and won't let anything happen to you. Try and take this change in your stride my lil Cappy and smile each day as you make new friends and new memories. We want you to come back each day and tell us with about all the pranks you played at school, all the poems you recited, all the games you learned".

Wipe away the tears coz you're all grown up. Each day will be memorable than the one gone bye.

God bless you my love...

Monday, July 4, 2016

For It's The King Who Fights...

I know a Lion (Leo) who is known for his never say die attitude. At times happy go lucky, at times aggressive; sometimes broody but mostly "I can take everything in my stride".

Such is life that it throws a series of tests at each of us, at various junctures. It tests the tough ones far more than the faint hearted. So how can the Leo be spared? He is taking his set of tests, as we speak (or I shall say - as I write).

One after the other, like tidal waves, the tests are becoming bigger and tougher. But, the Lion being a Lion, is gnawing through each of these, one by one.

I'm seeing him pass through crests and troughs of life with a spirit that only the "King Of The Jungle" exudes. So this is for you Shera...

Challenges may come and go but what has to stay is your spirit to sail through...